“Patience is about discovering who you are, what you can stand and what you can’t stand” – Bkundo Onyari
My niece who is in her first year in the university asked me an interesting question, whether I could be interested to acquire the services of someone who can read my future. I smiled and asked why and she just smiled.
Part of the real beauty of life is that it is unpredictable. Nothing is permanent, everything changes and a lot of things can happen that will transform who you are and have an impact in your life. The exciting thing is that we need to cultivate the ability to truly accept whatever comes and embrace it. This is what was going through my mind as I was reflecting on what my niece had asked. I was wondering if I got someone to tell me how my future will be, then what sense would there be to live. I am a co-creator and every moment I am creating my future with the actions and steps I am taking.
Recently I have learned the true meaning of acceptance. I never in all my life thought I was going to experience certain emotions and be dealing with confusing situations, as I did some years ago.
You see, sometimes you’re an observer of other people’s lives and you think you’ll never experience what they’re living, whether it be a positive or negative situation. You think, “That will never happen to me.”
Bikundo Onyari lecturing
Of course, life will bring many challenges and it’s not easy to embrace them when we’re suffering and wishing those things had never happened. But if we start nurturing acceptance in our lives right now, we will likely cope with future crises in different ways by observing them from different perspectives. We will accept instead of resisting.
There are four (4) lessons; I want to share on cultivating acceptance;
Accept the present – listen to your body and environment and how it communicates to you. Listen to the sounds around you and your own breath. Become aware of the sensations in your body and bring your attention to the inflow and outflow of air through your nose. Continue observing your breath, allowing it to bring you into the present moment.
Accept responsibility – while sometimes we find ourselves in situations over which we have no apparent control, most of our daily struggles are the consequences of previous choices we have made. Accepting our contribution to the challenge we face can help us see that we are free to make new choices that lead to new possibilities.
Accept change – accepting the inevitability of change does not mean that we relinquish our desires or wallow in situations that we can change. Instead, it is focusing on the present while discovering the freedom to respond creatively.
Commit – with deepened awareness, we can make new choices, let go of habits that no longer serve us and commit to doing something different. Remember we have control over our choices, but not over the results of our choices. We do our best and watch with curiosity and composure as life unfolds.
Connect to your body, accept this moment, know that change is inevitable and become clear on what you would like to see manifest. Your ability to co-create the next moment requires acceptance of the present.
– Bikundo Onyari
Bikundo is a self taught social entrepreneur, based in Nairobi, Kenya. He is a Bridge2Success mentor and coach for upward mobile young professionals who are ambitious, smart, go-getters and high achievers who are keen to create a dynamic and inspiring life. Bikundo feels purposeful working with people to realize and nurture their abilities. Apart from Kenya, he has worked in a variety of locations including Rwanda, Uganda, the Netherlands, Morocco and Mexico. You can reach him on Twitter @BikundoOnyari.